Sex Menu

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If you go through the topics below in order, top to bottom, each person should alternatively read the next topic. If a single person were to read the topics, he / she would expose all his / her personality while the other person could change his / her answers in order to pretend that he / she is a good match.

The text in italic font, and text within parenthesis, contains instructions and tips, not topics.

The conversation topics (about sex) are available in a desktop friendly format and in a smartphone friendly format.

The list of topics below is a limited list of possible actions to do during sex. You might want to add your own topics.

Before you start talking about sex with your partner, you might want to print the sex menu so that you can keep notes of your agreements.



Instructions for answering

For each topic from the list below, each person should state his / her preferences. Then, an agreement has to be reached on who the subject of the action is supposed to be, and with what frequency should the action be done. The agreement is valid only until one person changes his / her mind. Write down the result as follows:

The Subject indicates who should be the "Subject" from the action; if the word "Subject" is missing, this can be ignored:

The Frequency indicates how often the action should be done, at the request of the person who wants to do the action:

The disagreement result indicates how to handle an action that one person doesn't want to do:

Examples of answered topics:



Topics

After sex activity: We stay in tight body contact with penetration.

After sex activity: We stay in tight body contact without penetration.

Facesitting: Subject sits with butt on partner's face.

Facesitting: Subject sits with genitals on partner's face, no thrusting.

Facesitting: Subject sits with genitals on partner's face, with thrusting.

Fingering: Subject thrusts fingers in partner's anus.

Fingering: Subject thrusts fingers in partner's vagina.

Fisting: Subject thrusts fist inside partner's vagina.

Foreplay and non-sexual: Subject receives a full body massage (from partner).

Foreplay and non-sexual: Subject's genitals are shaved (by partner).

Foreplay and non-sexual: Subject's body is washed (by partner).

Foreplay and non-sexual: We cuddle and spoon, no penetration.

Foreplay and non-sexual: We cuddle and spoon, with penetration.

Licking: Subject's anus is licked (by partner).

Licking: Subject's external genitals are licked and sucked (by partner) (fellatio and cunnilingus).

Licking: The man licks (inside) the woman's vagina.

Masturbating: Subject watches partner masturbating.

Masturbating: We masturbate each other.

Masturbating: We masturbate together (each his / her own genitals).

Multiple partners, Swinging: We swap partners with another couple.

Multiple partners, Threesome: The man and two women.

Multiple partners, Threesome: The woman and two men.

Multiple partners, Watching: Subject watches partner having sex with another person.

Novelty: Subject initiates sex.

Novelty, Role play: Subject acts like someone else during sex. (Explain the acted role.)

Novelty, Role play: We make out like we're teenagers. (Scenario: we're hungry for physical contact, we don't know what to do, what to ask, what to expect, we don't have our own place, we take any opportunity we have and play in improper places, we're pressed for time because we might get caught, we behave with restraint because we don't know how far the partner is willing to go, we explore our boundaries through touching and rubbing, we're opportunistic and steal kisses and touches, we engage in petting through clothes rather than penetration, our minds don't have the opportunity to settle in a comfortable place.)

Penetration, Anal: The penis in the woman's anus.

Penetration, Oral: The penis in the woman's mouth, no thrusting, deep-throat.

Penetration, Oral: The penis in the woman's mouth, with thrusting.

Penetration, Vaginal: The penis in the vagina.

Position for oral sex: 69 (man on his back in bed, woman on top facing the man's penis).

Position for oral sex: Pecker (woman on her back in bed, with head over the edge of the bed, man standing next to her head).

Position for vaginal penetration: Missionary (woman on her back in bed, man on top).

Position for vaginal or anal penetration: Cowgirl (man on his back in bed, woman on top facing the man).

Position for vaginal or anal penetration: Cowgirl reverse (man on his back in bed, woman on top facing the man's feet).

Position for vaginal or anal penetration: Doggy (woman on her knees and hands in bed, man from behind).

Position for vaginal or anal penetration: Eagle (woman on her back in bed with legs spread wide, man on top).

Position for vaginal or anal penetration: Backpack (woman on her back in bed with knees to the shoulders, man on top).

Recording, Photography: Subject is photographed naked.

Recording, Video: Subject is videorecorded naked.

Recording, Video: We videorecord the sexual act.

Setting and location: We have sex at night, lights off, in front of the open window.

Setting and location: We have sex in a secluded public location. (Locations: forest, corn field, back room.)

Setting and location: We have sex in the bedroom.

Setting and location: We have sex in the shower.

Setting and location: We have sex on the kitchen table.

Setting and location: We have sex on the livingroom couch.

Setting and location, Lighting: We turn the lights off (in a dark room).

Setting and location, Lighting: We turn the lights on (dim).

Setting and location, Lighting: We have sex in daylight.

Teasing and domination, Delayed orgasm (edging): Subject is denied orgasm and made to repeatedly beg for orgasm.

Teasing and domination, Delayed orgasm (edging): We repeatedly delay the orgasm (for long sex session).

Teasing and domination, Duration: We have a long foreplay.

Teasing and domination: The man ejaculates in the woman's mouth.

Teasing and domination: The man ejaculates on the woman's abdomen.

Teasing and domination: The man ejaculates on the woman's breasts.

Teasing and domination: The man ejaculates on the woman's butt.

Teasing and domination: The man ejaculates on the woman's face.

Teasing and domination: Subject has multiple areas of the body simultaneously stimulated.

Teasing and domination: Subject is made to watch his / her body being used for sex.

Teasing and domination: Subject is teased with a feather.

Teasing and domination: Subject's external genitals are teased, no penetration.

Teasing and domination: Subject's orgasm is watched by partner.

Teasing and domination: Subject must be the active one, while the partner is passive during sex.

Teasing and domination: We have improvised sex whenever and wherever Subject wants.

Teasing and domination: We have sex in front of a mirror.

Teasing and domination: We look in each other's eyes.

Teasing and domination: We play with food during sex.

Teasing and domination: We watch pornography together.

Toys, Anal penetration: Subject's anus is penetrated with a sex toy.

Toys, Oral penetration: Subject's mouth is penetrated with a sex toy.

Toys, Vaginal penetration: Woman's vagina is penetrated with a sex toy.

Tying up: Subject is blindfolded.

Tying up: Subject's ears are plugged with earplugs.

Tying up: Subject's mouth is gagged (with a gag ball).

Tying up: Subject's movements are restrained, heavy tying, bondage.

Tying up: Subject's movements are restrained, light tying.

Rough sex: Subject has hair pulled by partner.

Rough sex: Subject is lightly choked (not asphyxiated) by partner.

Rough sex: Subject is pinned down.

Rough sex: Subject is used as a sex toy.

Rough sex: Subject is subjected to explicit talk ("I do this to you").

Rough sex: Subject is subjected to offensive talk ("you're my whore").

Rough sex: Subject must be disciplined / punished for his / her naughtiness / disobedience / lewdness.

Rough sex: Subject is subjected to physical pain by partner. (Explain what kind of pain.)

Rough sex: Subject's body is lightly bitten by partner.

Rough sex: Subject's butt is spanked.

Rough sex: Subject's chin may be forcefully pushed up to expose the neck.

Rough sex: Subject's face is slapped.

Rough sex: Subject's holes are penetrated with thick objects.

Rough sex: The woman is subjected to a forced deep-throat.